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Codependency
It's a little known - yet much denied fact - that people treat you the way you secretly ask to be treated. Your unspoken request that determines how others behave toward you is extended to -and received by - everyone you meet.
What is your invisible inner life? It's the way you actually feel - as opposed to the way you're trying to appear - when meeting any person or event.
In other words, your invisible inner life is your real inner condition. It's this state of internal affairs that co...
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Codependency
Those with whom we assemble we will soon resemble, so the simple old saying goes. Yet it tells of a deep Truth. It says that who we are the stuff of our soul at present is being transformed continuously by the nature of the company we keep; so that, in (our) essence we are always moving and evolving towards a kind of psychic oneness with whatever relationships we have revolving around us that we are within.
This company we keep refers both to the kinds of people outside of us and the presenc...
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Codependency
HOW TO ATTRACT EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY PEOPLE
1. Who you think you are is important. Like attracts like. Think about it. Do you like who you are?
2. What you want in a relationship is important, and when you are willing to ask for it, you will be able to create it. But only ask for what you want when you are clear about
what it is. Until then, don't go around demanding things you just think you should have.
3. We get exactly what we focus on. The problem or the solution. We make a choice ...
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Codependency
"I was up too late with my friend Peg last night," Abigail told me in our phone session. "She was needing to vent. Then I had a problem falling asleep, but at least I was there for her."
"How often does this happen?" I asked her.
"Oh, fairly often. At least every couple of weeks."
"Why do you continue to listen to her?"
"Isn't that what a good friend does?"
"How do you feel when you listen to her?"
"Kind of stressed."
"Do you see it helping her to vent to you over and over?'...
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Codependency
"You cut me off like you cut off mommy when she died.” Only four days back from a drug relapse, my brother Billy's statement would have charged me up for a week. This time I understood how entwined I was with him.
I didn’t feel the electrical surge in my stomach when my guardians were doing their jobs perfectly. They had blocked the seduction to get into a long drawn out saga with him. I no longer felt compelled to lash out or try to explain my fit of exasperation because they hol...
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Codependency
Imagine that you have a little child - a son or daughter, but that you are only 15 years old. How are you going to feel about this child? There is a good possibility that you will feel that this child is a burden, limiting your freedom. You will likely feel that the child is too demanding, needing too much from you. You may want to go out and have fun and not be tied down to this child.
Is this how you feel about your own inner child - your own feelings and needs? Does it feel burdensome to ...
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Codependency
With the current interest in mental health topics, a mental health language has emerged with words such as manipulation, boundaries, limits, rescuing, dependence, and codependence. Many people are unclear what these words mean when applied to relationships. I would like to bring some clarity to one of these terms ? MANIPULATION ? and how it relates to the other terms mentioned above.
Webster's New World Dictionary defines manipulation as: "managing or controlling artfully or by shrewd use of ...
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Codependency
In Romans 12:1 of the Holy Bible, the Apostle Paul tells the citizens of Rome, "Be transformed by the renewing of your mind"
"BE TRANSFORMED BY THE RENEWING OF YOUR MIND"!
I've read that verse, memorized it in high school, heard it dozens of times since, but had I ever taken the time to discover what it means? Or had I ever imagined I could actually apply those words of advice to my own life in order to live free and happy?? Not until now.
Let us analyze this verse,spoken nearly 2000 year...
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Codependency
How does having an alcoholic spouse affect your holiday season? Is this a time of year you dread because you have to attend parties with a partner whom you fear will get drunk and then behave badly? In fact, do you turn down invitations when you’d prefer to be socializing and celebrating the season, all because of the risk of embarrassment or worse caused by your alcoholic spouse?
Some might profess me fortunate. My alcoholic husband didn’t much like to socialize. Actually, that ...
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Codependency
"At work, every time I have to speak at meetings, I get so stressed."
"I'm taking a class and I'm always afraid to raise my hand and ask a question."
"I'm fine one to one, but as soon as I get into a group, I'm so tense I can hardly stand it."
"I'm totally relaxed with my women friends, but as soon as I'm with a guy I like, I can't be myself."
Each of these people are anxious and stressed because they want to get approval and avoid disapproval. What are they telling themselves that i...
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Codependency
It is a child-like state that results in having one's self-worth dependent on external validation. It's about living from the outside in, molding oneself to fit around others' lives instead of directing the course of one's life from internal clues, hopes, dreams, wisdom, and power. . . The underlying cry is, "Am I good enough? Do you love me? Take care of me. Please don't leave me." Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D. ?Many Roads, One Journey
We affirm we have the power to take charge of our lives a...
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Codependency
Do you sometimes wonder why you feel so drained after being with some people, while you feel energized when being with others?
Some people are energy vampires, and actually drain energy from you. How do they do this? What can you do to avoid this?
WAYS PEOPLE DRAIN ENERGY
Sometimes the ways people drain energy is obvious, and sometimes it is very subtle. A fairly obvious way is talking non-stop. I wrote an article on talking addiction and received the following response from a reader: ...
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